Change your thoughts, Change your World

July 1, 2017
in Life

Have you ever read The Secret? You should. I’m a HUGE believer that the power of positive thinking can change your life! I’m not kidding.

So I had this event in March. It was the very first event I did with my new position at work, and I had been planning it for months. The only thing is, the event was outdoors, and with the weather, you never know what you’re going to get. Let me tell you I used every single tool in my toolbox; I envisioned a beautiful and bright sunny day. Albeit it was chilly in the morning, it quickly warmed up to a comfy 65 degrees. It was sunny enough for me to get a sunburn! The rest of March was rainy and chilly…. Later, I was having financial issues w/unexpected bills sucking the digits out of my bank account. Instead of focusing on my lack of funds, I said to myself that I didn’t know where, or how, but I would get enough cash to last me until the next pay period. Within one week, I received a refund from my car insurance, a surprise cash wedding gift, a free car maintenance, and a one-month early birthday gift…

Change your thoughts, Change your World

Coincidence, possibly. Will I stop believing in the power of positive thinking? Nope.

But I digress!! (I could go on forever about The Secret.) How do you change your world by merely changing your thoughts? Here’s a simple exercise. Read the following ten thoughts.

1. I am unattractive.                                            6. I have great friends
2. My armpits stink.                                            7. I have a pimple growing on my forehead.
3. I have a nice smile.                                         8. I have a great future ahead of me.
4. I am a nice person.                                         9. I am a great success.
5. I have the worst luck in the world.               10. I am so broke
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Which ones did you remember?

Remember when I mentioned how cavemen had to rely on their instincts & their gut feelings to survive? It was also far more important for them to remember negative things over the positive ones, like remembering which color berries caused vomiting and diarrhea and remembering on which grounds the lions tended to prowl. But in the present day, so much emphasis on negativity just lead to anxiety, depression, and a battery of ailments.

So what to do? You have to put in just a little extra effort to hone in on those positive things in your life. Here are 5 things that I do:

1. Create a “Gratitude Jar”

Whether it’s a small accomplishment, something that made me happy, or something as simple as a compliment, I jot it down on a post-it and put it in my gratitude jar. At the end of the year, I plan on making a collage out of them and putting them in a scrapbook. I think I’ll call it “Memories of Gratitude.” 🙂

2. Acceptance

I think many people mistaken acceptance as complacency. That is not the case. It goes back to my post about shouldering all over yourself and masturbating… Things will not always be how you want them when you want them. That doesn’t mean that you stop reaching for the stars. It simply means accepting where you are right this second. People have lost their sanity over less…

3. Do Not Dwell on the Negative
I used to hold serious grudges… not anymore. All it did was pull me down emotionally. I also don’t believe in mistakes, only lessons. It is what helps us learn and we grow. I recently went to a seminar where the speaker defined “depressive realism” as paying attention to the shit that other people chose to ignore. Ah well… I’ll hold onto my rose-colored glasses and be happy.

Funny story… My husband was stressed over work, and he would think about it all the time. I finally told him that they only pay him to use his brain from 9 am to 5 pm. Any additional time he devoted to work, he was allowing his supervisor free room and board in his brain space. And what do people do when they have space to themselves, get naked! So I told him that his supervisor was running around in his brain space, butt naked, getting his bare ass all over his nicely furnished brain… Quite imaginative, yes… But it worked!!

Change your thoughts, Change your World

4. Check yourself, FOOL!
When we’re living our lives, we get tunnel vision and it’s hard to see what we have.

I get paid at 8 am and I feel like Oprah. By 12 o’clock noon, I feel like MC Hammer after I pay all my bills. But when I stop to think, what am I paying for? A cell phone, a car premium, electricity, the credit card that paid for my wedding, the steak in my fridge, etc. I gotta say, I’m pretty blessed!! These are the things I worked for.

5. Create a Vision Board
This is one of the tools from The Secret. I LOVE vision boards, and this reminds me I need to do an updated one (including great success for my 1st book). Here is my vision board from last year:

The goal is to place an image to your dreams and aspirations (or words) and to post it in a visible place. It serves as a constant reminder of what you aspire to attain. It is a silent affirmation.

BONUS: Be Kind
Providing happiness to others inherently causes you to feel happy. Do a good deed, whether it’s as small as holding the door open for someone or carrying a friend’s heavy couch up three flights of stairs into his or her new apartment. Positivity begets positivity. Spread the wealth.

Below are some tips benefits to positive thinking according to the Mayo Clinic:

  • Increased life span
  • Lower rates of depression
  • Lower levels of distress
  • Greater resistance to the common cold
  • Better psychological and physical well-being
  • Reduced risk of death from cardiovascular disease
  • Better coping skills during hardships and times of stress

Change your thoughts, and your world will change from a place of negativity and upset to a place of optimism, hopefulness, and gratitude… Which item on the list of 5 will you do?

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